Does Size Matter?
Many men worry
unnecessarily about their penis size. Anything that contributes to that
worry—porn featuring unnaturally endowed stars, for example, or weak data
analysis that ranks cities with larger penises at the “top”—has a negative impact
on our collective sexuality. Anxiety about our bodies can really get in the way
of healthy sexual expression. I'm kind of disappointed that a company that
purports to promote sexual health would spin their data in a way that might be
harmful to a lot of men's self-image.
I also doubt that any of
the men who purchased TheyFit condoms thought that one day the information that
they trustingly typed into their online order forms would be used to rank their
hometowns according to penis size. The data itself is questionable, since the
information collected is not from a random sample of men in any state or
city—it just represents a subset of men who chose to purchase a particular
brand of condoms that comes in a wide variety of sizes. I imagine that men who
fall outside of the "average" range of penis sizes might be more
likely to buy custom-fit condoms, since they may be more likely to have
difficulties with standard condoms. There's no way to tell whether TheyFit
users match up with the rest of the male population in terms of size, so the
rankings are, in essence, meaningless.
If any piece of the data
was interesting, it's the tidbit that the penis sizes in their sample formed a
perfect bell curve: 25% were less than 5 inches in length, 50% were between 5 and
6 inches in length, and 25% were more than 6 inches in length. I wish that they
had emphasized this more, instead of focusing solely on which cities and states
came in at the 6-inch-plus mark. There are an equal number of guys on the
smaller end and the larger end, and both can be considered well within a normal
Penis size does matter
during sex, but not in the way that people usually assume, which is that bigger
is always better. A preference for the size of your partner's penis is highly individual,
and what can feel just right to one person may seem too big or too small to
another. I have more customers come into the store saying that their partner's
penis is too large than the other way around. Our best-selling dildo is a very
average 6 inches long and 1.5 inches wide, and the one that's been flying off
our shelves recently? 4.25 inches long and a tad more than 1 inch wide. These
two far outsell the monster cocks that we carry (although those have their fans
as well!). So men, whatever the size of your equipment, there's someone out
there ready to love it, and you should love it too.
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Laura Anne Stuart has a master’s degree in public health and has worked as a sexuality educator for more than a decade. She owns the Tool Shed, an erotic boutique on Milwaukee’s East Side.