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Do All Women Have a G-Spot?

Jun. 17, 2010
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Do all women have a G-spot?I have been trying to find my wife’s for years now, and I just cannot find it.I know it is supposed to be in about 2 inches on the front side. What might I be doing wrong?

You bring up a topic that is a subject of fierce debate. Much has been written about the elusive G-spot, which is named for Ernst Grafenberg, the physician who first studied and explored this part of female sexual anatomy. Many medical care providers and some sexuality educators do not fully embrace the concept of the G-spot, so if you were to ask your doctor this question, he or she might say “no.” In fact, a recent British study claims to have found no conclusive evidence that the G-spot exists. So, depending on where you seek your information, you will receive different answers to this question.

Personally, I fall firmly into the camp of sexuality educators who believe that there is, indeed, a G-spot, and that much of the nay-saying about its existence is due to the fact that our society is generally uncomfortable with the idea of women’s sexual pleasure, and that our research and medical care reflect this. However, just because all women have a G-spot doesn’t mean that all women enjoy having it stimulated.

The G-spot is often described as being about 2 inches inside the front wall of the vagina, as you say. This makes it sound like the G-spot is something that is physically inside the vagina and part of the vaginal tissue. This is not actually the case. According to many feminist sexuality educators and researchers, the G-spot is a collection of spongy tissue that surrounds the urethra, sometimes referred to as the paraurethral sponge or paraurethral glands. This tissue, which is analogous to the prostate in men, becomes engorged with fluid when a woman is aroused. When the tissue fills with fluid, pressure on that area can feel pleasurable to some women. However, since the paraurethral sponge is an internal organ, like the prostate, it’s not possible to touch it directly. You can indirectly put pressure on this area by pressing upward on the front wall of the vagina, since the urethra is in front of the vagina. For some women, putting pressure on the front wall of the vagina at exactly 2 inches inside, with fingers at exactly the 12 o’clock position, might really ring their chimes. But since everyone’s body is different, some women might prefer shallower or deeper penetration, light pressure or firm pressure, gentle stroking or hard rocking, 1 o’clock or 11 o’clock.

Even though every woman does have paraurethral glands, that doesn’t mean that this is a site of sexual pleasure for all women. I think of it as being analogous to anal sex. Everyone has an anus, but not everyone enjoys anal play. Does that mean that there’s something wrong with folks who aren’t into backdoor loving? Of course not. It’s just not their thing, and that’s fine. One of the negative consequences of all the media attention that the G-spot has received over the past couple of decades is that women and their partners feel like there’s something wrong with them if they can’t “find” the G-spot or don’t experience pleasure when the area near the G-spot is stimulated. If that’s the case, the G-spot may not be their thing, and that’s fine. Concentrate on what is pleasurable to you and your partner, and keep exploring to find new erogenous zones that you do like.

That said, if you would like to keep exploring the G-spot now that you know a bit more about its anatomy, I recommend that your wife have an orgasm first, or bring herself very close to it, using a tried-and-true method. This ensures that there’s a lot of blood and other fluids in the pelvis and increases the likelihood that the G-spot will be engorged and thus more sensitive. Then try using your fingers or a firm, curved dildo or vibrator to explore stroking, pressing, or rocking back and forth against the front wall of the vagina. Vary your depth, speed and pressure. Some women find that light pressure on the lower abdomen, above the pubic bone, can also stimulate the G-spot, so don’t limit your exploration to the vagina alone. Enjoy exploring your partner’s body, and don’t put pressure on yourself or on her to elicit a particular type of reaction. Even if the G-spot doesn’t turn out to be a hot spot for her, you may discover some others.

Want Laura to answer your questions in SEXpress? Send them to laura@shepex.com. Not all questions received will be answered in the column, and Laura cannot provide personal answers to questions that do not appear here. Questions sent to this address may be reproduced in this column, both in print and online, and may be edited for clarity and content.

Laura Anne Stuart has a master’s degree in public health and has worked as a sexuality educator for more than a decade. She owns the Tool Shed, an erotic boutique on Milwaukee’s East Side.


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