A Sticky, Stinky Situation

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Dear Ruthie,

I caught my partner selling his worn, dirty underwear to fetish lovers online, and I’m not sure how I feel about it. It’s not as though he’s cheating on me, but it feels like he is somehow. The fact that he kept it from me tells me he knows he did something wrong. 

While I wondered where the extra cash was coming from, I didn’t investigate things as well as I should have. The money is surprisingly good, but it just feels off. I don’t know how to feel or what to do. 

Any thoughts?

Stinky Situation

Dear Stink Bomb,

I gotta tell ya, this is a new one for me! Dirty undies? Really? People never cease to amaze me. 

While he’s not exactly pimping himself out in a sexual manner—no web cam shows, nude photos or outright prostitution, I can see how the sexual nature of this has you bothered. 

Start by talking to him as to why he kept this from you. That conversation should open up communications about what’s really going on here. In the end, if you’re simply not comfortable with his side business, ask him to stop. Explain that it’s hard for you to move forward with your relationship with this activity going on in the background. If he refuses to close shop, this may not be the relationship for either of you.

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