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Dear Ruthie,
I’m casually dating two people—a man and a woman. People assume that bisexuals cheat on everyone … and now I rather feel like I am doing just that. In my defense, both of these relationships are new and there haven’t been any discussions on exclusivity. That said, I still want to tell both parties I’m seeing other people so I’m not hiding anything. How can I go about that?
Thanks,
Two-Timing Thom
Dear Tommy,
Being bi sure as heck doesn’t give anyone a free pass for two-timing. I’m glad to see you agree and want to be transparent with the two people in your life. Keep it real, sugar!
Be transparent with both partners. Let them know you don’t feel the relationship is ready for exclusiveness and ask if they feel the same. If so, create some rules so no one gets hurt. If either of them reverts to the “bi equals cheating” crap, hand them a fact sheet and a cold drink and head for the door.
Ruthie’s Social Calendar
April 2—Viewing of Clue with Lesley Ann Warren at Marcus Performing Arts Center (929 N. Water St.): Join the original Miss Scarlet for a screening of the hit comedy Clue. See why this movie has become a cult classic with commentary by one of its stars. Stop by www.marcuscenter.org for tickets.
April 3—The Big Gay Prom at Overture Center for the Arts (201 S. State St., Madison): Enjoy the prom you’ve aways imagined with this evening of memory making. The theme of the dance is Enchanted Forest, so come ready for photo ops, food, dancing and fun. Dress in your best, bring a date or party solo, but nab tickets at www.thebiggarmarketllc.com.
April 5—Easter Sunday at Harbor Room (117 E. Greenfield Ave.): Spend Easter with your chosen family during this noon to 7 p.m. party. In addition to mimosa, screwdrivers and bloody Mary specials, you’ll enjoy a 1 p.m. buffet, prizes and more.
April 7—Chapters for Change Book Club at MKE LGBT Community Center (161 S. First St.): Here’s a book club that gives back to the community every month. First, the group discusses the month’s read, then everyone works together to perform an activity that supports a cause directly related to the book. A great way to meet new people, the club meets at 7 p.m. See www.mkelgbt.org for details.
April 11—Doggy Day at Deer District (333 W. Juneau Ave.): Grab your fur baby and get ready for a day of fun! Free and open to the public, the 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. day includes a marketplace, food, beverages and so much more. A benefit for Winston’s Wishes animal rescue, the day is one you and your four-legged friend won’t want to miss.
April 18—Latin Night at Walker’s Pint (818 S. Second St.): Addictive Latin beats fill the air during this 9:30 p.m. bash that’s sure to become the highlight of your weekend. See why this women’s bar remains a hot spot in Walker’s Point when you take in the fun every first and third Saturday of the month.
April 24—“RuPaul’s Drag Race” Viewing Party at Fluid (819 S. Second St.): Love watching the country’s favorite reality drag competition? You’ll adore it even more surrounded by folks who share your passion. Stop by the 7 p.m. viewing party just once, and you’re sure to pencil it into your social calendar every week.
April 25—Soft Life, Loud Love Women’s Dance Party at Pop (124 W. National Ave.): Celebrate Lesbian Visibility Week with this 7 p.m. bash. Enjoy a DJ, dancing, craft cocktails and more until midnight, but stay until bar close and party the night away with the team at this Walkers Point hot spot.
April 26—Spirit and Vendor Fair at New Berlin Ale House (16000 W. Cleveland Ave.): Check out a bevy of mediums, tarot card readers, healers and other spiritual vendors during this 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. event. See www.eventbrite.com for a chance to register for a door prize as well as details on the day.
Have a question for Ruthie? Want to share an event with her? Contact Ruthie at DearRuthie@ShepEx.com.
