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Dear Ruthie,
I’m attracted to bad boys. If a young guy’s done jail time, has warrants, living in a halfway house or is just sort of a rude a-hole, I’m all in. My friends say I’m crazy because all these guys are in their 20s and I’m in my mid 60s, but I don’t care. They also say the guys are taking advantage of me as they have no money and I pay for everything.
Sometimes these men say they’re straight, and I let them move in with me until they can get back on their feet. Sometimes they’re “gay for pay,” and I pay. Hey, we both get what we want, right? My friends also worry these guys (we used to call them “rough trade” in my day) are going to rob me and/or beat me up, but I’m careful about this.
Think this is a problem, a fetish or something else?
I love your column,
Horny Hal
Dear Horn Dog,
I hate to say it, sugar, but you’re thinking with your crotch and not your brain. Start using your big head more and your little head less. Your friends love you and are right for being concerned for your wellbeing.
You’re attracted to bad boys, and that’s fine. What’s not fine is putting yourself in situations that can harm you physically, mentally or even financially. Befriend these guys all you want but stop giving these troublemakers money and a place to stay.
Do some soul searching as well. Are you truly attracted to troublesome men or do you simply like the feeling you get by “saving” them. Is taking care of them the actual high you’re chasing? If so, you may want to seek professional help to understand what’s going on in your head as well as your heart.
Ruthie’s Social Calendar
April 10—“Alyssa Edwards: Glitz and Giggles” at Milwaukee Improv(20109 W. Bluemound Road): RuPaul favorite Alyssa Edwards stops by Brew Town for a much-anticipated appearance. Hosted by Lucy Stoole and featuring a few of Milwaukee’s favorite queens, this 8 p.m. show is sure to have you laughing all week long. See ticketweb.com for tickets.
April 10—Karaoke at Walker’s Pint (818 S. Second St.): Every night may be ladies’ night at The Pint, but Wednesdays are karaoke nights, too! Sing a song or sit back and watch the fun with the friendly crowd and bar staff.
April 13—Bel Canto Chorus Gala & Auction at The Pfister Hotel (424 E. Wisconsin Ave.): Raise a glass to one of the city’s favorite choral groups during this swanky fundraiser. Celebrating the music of the 80s, the 5:30 p.m. evening includes cocktails, auctions, dinner and a special performance by the chorus. See belcanto.org for tickets.
April 13—Ruthie’s Big Gay Cabaret at LaCage Niteclub (801 S. Second St.): That’s right, folks … I’m launching my own cabaret show featuring all-live vocals and music! Join us upstairs at Montage for an evening of music, laughs and more as we take the city’s drag scene to a new level. Featuring a live band and several of the city’s top-notch singers, the 7 p.m. show is one you won’t want to miss! See you there!
April 14—Milwaukee Makers Market at Discovery World Pavilion (500 N. Harbor Drive): Celebrate 414 Day by supporting local artists, makers and crafters. More than 50 vendors sell their wares during this 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. sale. Food trucks and free admission make the event extra special.
April 14—Queer Climbing Collective at Adventure Rock (613 S. Second St.): The team at the Milwaukee LGBT Community Center hosts this change-of-pace adventure that’s sure to get your week off to an exciting start. The gang starts climbing at 6 p.m. See mkelgbt.org for more.
April 16—'80s Movie Trivia at County Clare Irish Pub (1234 N. Astor St.): Gather a team of friends and test your knowledge of rom coms, slasher films and other cinematic genres of the 80s. The competition starts at 8:30 p.m. but arrive early to nab a table.
Have a question for Ruthie? Want to share an event with her? Contact Ruthie at DearRuthie@ShepEx.com.
