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Ruthie
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When you’re an advice columnist you spend a lot of time hearing from single people looking for love. You also hear from folks who are partnered yet unsure married life is for them. Yep—the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
Many couples are able to work things out and lots of single men and women ultimately find their match. There are those, however, who struggle with their situation, always wondering if they’re missing out on something. Take the reader below, for instance. Tommy is missing his single days but also loves the relationship he’s in. What to do? Let’s dive into his email and find out what his options are!
Dear Ruthie,
I miss being single, but I love my partner tremendously. Am I doing something wrong? Are these conflicting feelings normal?
Help,
Terrible Tommy
Dear Tommy,
You’re not terrible in the least. Missing single life doesn’t mean you chose wrong. It simply means you remember your past fondly.
Every relationship requires trade-offs. The key is whether you still feel like you in your current situation. Is there something you “miss” specifically? Space? Spontaneity? If that’s eating you up, sit down and discuss it with your honey. A good partner won’t panic at honesty.
Together, you can adjust life without ending the relationship … and without feeling you’re missing out on anything. Love should expand you, not shrink you. Discuss things early before resentment sneaks in.
Ruthie’s Social Calendar
August 13—Opening Night Disaster! The (70s) Musical at Bombshell Studio Theatre (19700 W. Bluemound Road): What happens when you combine ‘70s disco hits with that decade’s disaster films genre? You get this hilarious production from the team at Bombshell Theatre. Come ready to relish all the kooky nostalgia you can handle once you secure seats at www.bombshellrtheatre.org.
August 14—Fuzzy Friday Bear Night at Woody’s (1579 S. Second St.): Big, bold and bearded! That’s the moto of this new theme night in Cream City. Whether you’re a bear yourself or simply a fur-chaser, you don’t want to miss this 7 p.m. bash that includes a DJ, dancing, food and more.
August 14—Summerween Video Dance Party at Mad Planet (533 E. Center St.): Goth is taking over Mad Planet. Four DJs help bring shadows to the shoreline during this summer-goth paradise. Darkwave, post punk, industrial and new wave music fill the airwaves as costumed patrons invade the dancefloor. Don’t miss out! The party starts at 9 p.m. and runs until bar close.
August 15—Tori Amos In Times of Dragons Tour at Riverside Theater (116 W. Wisconsin Ave.): One of the more prolific performers of our time returns to Cream City with a stop on her latest tour. Her extraordinary work has spanned decades, consistently receiving critical acclaim, and you’ll quickly see why when you nab seats via www.axs.com.
August 15—Let’s Sing Taylor: An Unofficial Live Tribute Show at Bank Five Nine Amphitheater/State Fair Park (640 S. 84th St.): If you’re a Swiftie, you won’t want to miss this all-live tribute to the queen herself. Come dressed to impress as you sing and dance the night away to all of Taylor’s hits. The concert is free after you pay the entrance fee to the State Fair.
August 16—Closing Day Irish Fest at Henry Maier Festival Park (200 N. Harbor Drive): If you haven’t taken in the fun, food and friendly faces of Irish Fest, you’ve got one more day to do so! Don’t miss out on the good times! See www.irishfest.com for details!
August 19—Milwaukee Night Market: International Flavor Night at MLK Dr. and Wisconsin Ave.: Combine the best of Cream City’s ethnic fests, set them into a street party and you have this wonderful celebration of cultures, customs and flavors. Enjoy more than 100 vendors, live entertainment, food and so much more during the 5-9 p.m. event.
Have a question for Ruthie? Want to share an event with her? Contact Ruthie at DearRuthie@ShepEx.com.
