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Dear Ruthie,
Let me start by saying I love my wife (been married 17 months) and I love all of her adult children. With that, let me explain that my wife’s 32-year-old daughter lives with us.
Normally I wouldn’t mind this, but she is rude, loud, doesn’t work, doesn’t contribute to the house, is messy and just an overall unpleasant person. Worst off, she refuses to follow the rules of the house we all agreed to.
I need her out…like yesterday! How do I go about this without upsetting my wife?
Thanks,
Unlucky Lori
Dear Unlucky,
Sucks to be you. LOL. I’m kidding of course, but you and your honey should still be in honeymoon mode, not survival mode.
You don’t indicate whether or not this living situation was part of the plan before your walk down the aisle and you don’t indicate why this moocher is living off you…although I’m guessing it’s her lack of work. You do, however, mention that house rules were established.
Let your wife know how this situation makes you feel. Then, review those house rules, asking why her daughter isn’t respecting them. Ask your wife to revisit the rules with her.
Next, ask your wife to set up goals the daughter needs to reach. For instance, clean the kitchen and bathrooms each week; get a job by end of November; pay rent starting end of December, etc. These goals should lead the daughter toward moving out.
Establish repercussions if goals aren’t met—increases in rent, no money given/loaned, eviction, etc. Be sure all is communicated well with the daughter. Let your wife know how you’ll feel if she doesn’t enforce the plan and hold all parties accountable. Good luck!
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