Dear Ruthie,
As a gay man, I find it deprecating when my female boss calls me names like “honey” and “sugar” and even “tootsie.” I’m not kidding. Fucking tootsie! I know she’s trying to be funny or lighthearted or whatever, but I hate it. Is this harassment?
What Do You Think,
Frustrated Frank
Dear Sugar Buns,
Stop your complaining, and sit your cute little keester down. Mama’s going to make it all better, baby doll. Now shut your pretty-boy lips and have a listen, hot stuff.
Do I think your boss is harassing you? It doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you’re feeling harassed or “deprecated,” to use your term. That said, you need to tell her or talk to someone from your Human Resources department ASAP. Okay, honey? (Sorry. I can’t stop myself!)
Dear Ruthie,
I recently lost my job due to downsizing. At about the same time, I met a guy and we started dating. I got a decent severance package, so right now money is not an issue; however, it seems to be an issue for my new boyfriend.
He regularly makes jabs about my unemployment when we’re out with friends. He even made a few cracks to waiters about his “need” to pay the bill because I can’t. I told him this pisses me off, and he laughs it off saying it’s a joke. I think we’re over it, then he does it again! Am I overreacting?
Feeling Lost,
Thom
Dear Tommy Boy,
What a fucker! Dump that chump because he clearly doesn’t care about the things that hurt you. You gave him a chance and he continued the behavior so move on. This should be a time to focus on you and to discover what you want and what makes you happy. Clearly, this guy isn’t it!
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