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Dear Ruthie,
My roommate is a slut. I’m not trying to slut shame him, but I can’t take this revolving door of strange men coming in and out of our place anymore.
I don’t feel safe having strangers sleeping over. (My roommate) has always got a new guy here watching movies and stuff, hogging the couch, using our shower in the morning, etc.
If (my roommate) wants to whore it up, that’s his business. Bringing it into our shared space makes it my business. What can I do to stop this?
Not Your Pimp,
Pissed-Off Pauly
Dear Pauly,
Give me your roomie’s name and contact info. I need to meet him and investigate this further. But seriously, sit down and calmly explain your feelings to your buddy. Don’t slut shame him; instead, explain how his actions affect you. Use statements such as “I feel unsafe with this many strangers in our place,” or “I get uneasy when someone I don’t know sleeps over.” Let him know that you’re no longer enjoying living in the home you two share.
Suggest a timeframe for having “friends” over, and recommend he stay at their place if a sleepover is necessary. If, in the end, your roommate refuses to respect your feeling and share your living space responsibly, you may need to consider looking for a new spot to lay your head.
Ruthie’s April Social Calendar
April 13—Ruthie’s Big Gay Cabaret at LaCage Niteclub (801 S. Second St.): That’s right, folks! I’m launching my own cabaret show featuring all-live vocals and music. Join us upstairs at Montage for an evening of music, laughs and more as we take the city’s drag scene to a new level. Featuring a live band and several of the city’s top-notch singers, the 7 p.m. show is one you won’t want to miss!
April 18—Pride Night for “Nina Simone: Four Women” at Milwaukee Repertory Theater (108 E. Wells St.): Join me, Shannon Dupree and BJ Daniels for a night of theater, friendship and fun. The party starts at 6 p.m. and continues with the incredible production at 7:30 p.m. Visit milwaukeerep.com and use the promo code “PRIDENIGHT.” The special tickets include a seat at the show as well as access to the pre-show cocktail party including complementary wine, beer and appetizers.
April 21—“Flourish: A Pageant Fundraiser” for Courage MKE at The Cooperage (820 S. Water St.): Who will become the 2024 Courage Ambassador? Attend this glitzy night to find out! A fundraiser for Courage MKE’s C2 Apartments, the 6 p.m. competition is hosted by my cousins The Sugarbaker Twins and serves up entertainment from some of Cream City’s most-loved performers. Get tickets at www.betterunite.com/couragemke.
April 23 to 28 – “Tina—The Tina Turner Musical” at Marcus Performing Arts Center (929 N. Water St.): Relish the fire, determination and success of the queen of rock—Tina Turner. The biographical musical makes its Milwaukee debut with eight performances that promise to be just as legendary as the 12-time Grammy-winning sensation herself. Be part of the excitement when you purchase tickets at www.marcuscenter.org.
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