Dear Ruthie,
Major problem over here. I’m gay, but I have a good friend who says he’s is straight. I hang out with him and his baby mama a lot. Things were fine until the guy and I got drunk, got naked and had sex one night. The baby mama is now suspicious, figuring out that something happened between him and I, and I don’t know what to do. Things are awkward and cringy between all three of us.
Looking for Advice,
Confused Karl
Dear Karl,
Let’s start with a reminder to keep it in your pants, honey. Just because someone invites you to do the horizontal tango doesn’t mean you have to take him up on it. That said, I understand that alcohol can make people do stupid things. We’ve all been there, sugar, so chalk this up to experience and know better moving forward. Don’t hit the sheets with your amigos!
Look, doll face, this guy is raising a child with the woman involved. They’ll have a bond for many years that you simply are not part of. That said, talk to the guy and ask how he’d like to proceed. After all, he may have to deal with the repercussions of your little tryst long after you’re out of the picture.
Speaking of which, you might need to walk away from the friendship with both parties. Acknowledging that their relationship has greater importance due to their co-parenting obligations will make it easier to move away from the friendship should the awkwardness prove too great.
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